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Wife Sex, is it a wrong fantasy?
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Jun 24 2006, 10:31 AM
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I have had and love the fantasy of watching my wife with another man/men.
I know that she enjoys people looking at her and playing over her pics, but she will not committ to trying it for real.
I would never force her and love her so much, but I have the urge to see her in action. when I last asked outright, she agreed (during sex) but afterwards didn't seem interested and stopped discussing the matter.
I cannot bring this up in conversation but know she is aware of my feelings as she has caught me out on the net numerous times.
Should I push for this fantasy or leave well alone?
My feelings are that i should find a well known car park, stop play and see what happens. I feel I would walk away satisfied but am scared to try.
any ideas??
ta ads xx
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Lynette |
Jun 24 2006, 05:40 PM
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QUOTE(ads1 @ Jun 24 2006, 10:31 AM) I have had and love the fantasy of watching my wife with another man/men. I know that she enjoys people looking at her and playing over her pics, but she will not committ to trying it for real. I would never force her and love her so much, but I have the urge to see her in action. when I last asked outright, she agreed (during sex) but afterwards didn't seem interested and stopped discussing the matter. I cannot bring this up in conversation but know she is aware of my feelings as she has caught me out on the net numerous times. Should I push for this fantasy or leave well alone? My feelings are that i should find a well known car park, stop play and see what happens. I feel I would walk away satisfied but am scared to try. any ideas?? ta ads xx I think your fantasy is a reasonably normal one. I'm sure a lot of men have this one. However, pushing any woman into something like that would be a mistake. It's got to be something that just kinda happens due to cercumstances. Maybe at a small, well, orchestrated get-together with another man, drinking, and suggetive behavior might prime the pump. But, if she resists in any way, you should put the breaks on or risk damaging your relationship. Good luck
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bondiguy |
Jun 28 2006, 11:26 PM
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QUOTE(Gnappster @ Jun 28 2006, 02:58 PM) yeah, I give her the same story Thats the Australian way
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UncleBuck |
Jun 29 2006, 04:58 PM
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QUOTE(ads1 @ Jun 24 2006, 10:31 AM) I have had and love the fantasy of watching my wife with another man/men. I know that she enjoys people looking at her and playing over her pics, but she will not committ to trying it for real. I would never force her and love her so much, but I have the urge to see her in action. when I last asked outright, she agreed (during sex) but afterwards didn't seem interested and stopped discussing the matter. I cannot bring this up in conversation but know she is aware of my feelings as she has caught me out on the net numerous times. Should I push for this fantasy or leave well alone? My feelings are that i should find a well known car park, stop play and see what happens. I feel I would walk away satisfied but am scared to try. any ideas?? ta ads xx STEP AWAY FROM THE FANTASY! you are giving your wife the open invitation to cheat, sure she may let you watch the first few times....but, what if she prefers another over you * she probably never would cheat but could you trust her after that, say when she is on a nite out on the town with the girls? just my thoughts but I have been there and done that *what if it was someone say from... Saskatchewan who has a little penis but likes to cuddle after sex how would you compete with that
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MichaelDavid |
Jun 30 2006, 08:11 PM
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QUOTE(ads1 @ Jun 24 2006, 10:31 AM) I have had and love the fantasy of watching my wife with another man/men. I know that she enjoys people looking at her and playing over her pics, but she will not committ to trying it for real. I would never force her and love her so much, but I have the urge to see her in action. when I last asked outright, she agreed (during sex) but afterwards didn't seem interested and stopped discussing the matter. I cannot bring this up in conversation but know she is aware of my feelings as she has caught me out on the net numerous times. Should I push for this fantasy or leave well alone? My feelings are that i should find a well known car park, stop play and see what happens. I feel I would walk away satisfied but am scared to try. any ideas?? ta ads xx It’s scary, to be sure. Sex is such a crapshoot, ya know? You might start out just "having fun", but lots of that ends up in marriage, huh? Some women have a powerful need to be protected and sheltered by their man and introducing another guy may make her feel cheapened, somehow less "precious" to you. Surely this doesn't describe all women and some find such stuff the spice of life, but I think any attempt to coerce — even gently — is playing with fire. I've heard too many stories of guys who did this and then it blew up in their face. Like others have said, she might find she has a taste for it and what if you find the reality wasn't the turn-on you expected? Now you've got a lady who is eager to play leapfrog and you opened Pandora's Box. My opinion is "open marriage" is seriously tough stuff. At the very least it takes two *very* secure people who are fully committed to their relationship lasting. But love is no respecter of the ties that bind, once a heart is stirred for another, going back is near impossible. I think the very best thing you can do is sit down and ask to talk about it, and make a sincere promise to never speak of it again if she wishes. The fact that she doesn't want to talk about it any further though seems like a pretty good indicator that you are close to (or already have) hurt feelings. My opinion is, you made your play and she said no, that pretty much ends the issue unless *she* re-opens it. Your best action might be to ask her if your effort to get her to do that has hurt her in some way, ask it honestly and with passion. Usually when a woman isn't talking about something, she wants to talk about it, just not the way YOU want to talk about it. Tread lightly my friend cause yo ass may be a hangin' over the abyss. Just my opinion though, take it as such.
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bondiguy |
Aug 3 2006, 04:36 AM
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QUOTE(sweetnsexy @ Aug 2 2006, 08:18 PM) Ah, so you make her go upstairs while you watch the football? One of your funnier posts
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