Welcome to the boards.... from one Aussie to another

It's great to be busy AND successful! (That's a little 'go you' right there)

And my hockey team won tonight so I'm elated.

Don't go scarce on us again... the more DY content we have here, the brighter everybody's day is. Espescially mine

<3 the DY

(And welcome back / home) 

yea...  what they said...
good to see ya...

welcome back DY, wow just love the new hair 

We need more DY! Lurking or whatever. 

Just as beautiful clothed DY... It is no wonder you have done some modelling

Hey DY, great pics, you have a big family. so must be the oldest?

Nice looking Family  and you look marvelous..

But does anyone find it alittle strange, besides me, to post pics of your family on a Rate My Melons Site 
just thinking out loud
probably get blasted for not being "sensitive"

I just wanted to thank my wonderful caring friends on here again. And to turn this to a positive note I would like to share a few personal pictures (not R-rated LOL).
The first one is from my 25th birthday dinner with lil sis and mom and her partner. And the second pic is of me and my dad's side of the family...my grandfather who is a preacher is on the right..best grandfather ever!

My $.02

Its unfortunate that you had to endure such crap from such a complete shit for nothing zero.

It may mean nothing for some people that a bunch of anonymous maniacs from a boob site say your a sweetheart, cause hey, We REALLY DONT know you but....

From one of the many boobie maniacal fans you have here I give you     a     and a    because you have made it to a place that is most important for you right now. 

You found you own self worth and self confidence and you now realize you dont need anyone to validate who you are.  YOU validate yourself.  Well done DY and best of luck in your future.

Thank you Mr.Trent. And as emotional as this sounds...this website is filled with such wonderful caring people. I am so lucky to have met them. And if I can help in any way with anyone please ask. I love to listen! Reading all these posts the past few days really has given me strength through this.

...Just pretend I said a good chunk of that too

And on another note...

I'm pretty sure (like 99%) that if you ask any one of us you'd find that if you had any problem... you could talk to any of us and we'd be an ear to you. I'm 100% positive that I would be willing... Cman would too just because he's Cman... anyone who comes up with murderous clowns has to be trustworthy

"Don't worry be happy"

Okay.  I'm coming in late on this, but here I go anyway.. just cuz there's a soft spot in my heart for you DY

But first I must say:

1) who knew Bondi had insight like that?  I thought he was just a simpsons encyclopedia.

2) who knew Gnappy had insight like that?  I thought he was just a simpsons encyclopedia.

3) CM, that was fucking Hilarious!!!!  the clown beating story was great... but the reasoning behind it is killer... just so he has to tell the story.  I love it.  But then you go and edit a picture and post it.  You are tops, man!!  Well done!!

Okay, DY, here's my dribble for ya.  I won't rehash all the good things that everyone else here has told you. but I will point out one or two things that everyone missed.  and as a side note, since 7th grade all my really close friends have been female, so I hvae a lot of background with this kind of thing. 

Your post that explains what happened also explains the "why."  You said (through inferences anyway) that this guy was basically a loser with no direction. His family was not a positive influence in the get a life department and aspirations likely were never anything he was brought up with.  So now here comes you, a gorgoeous, fun-loving girl with personality and wit who actually gives a shit about him.  It seems like he sees being with you as work.  He can be with you and go to classes, get a job, be in an intelligent adult relationship as opposed to a few week relationship built on nothing more deep than physical attraction... or he can live status quo with his mom where there are no demands or expectations.  He has lived his life surrounded by people who just don't give a shit.  I betcha his dad abused his mother and that's why he thought it was okay to abuse you.  And look at where his mom ended up... believing she was no better than working a shithole job and living in a dead-end area.  looking at his life with his parents is like looking in the crystal ball for his future life.  He is going nowhere... and he chooses to go nowhere. Status quo is easy for him and that's all that will ever make him happy.  Aspiring anything more would be work for him and he's never had to work for anything before because his parents probably never gave a shit anyway.  His complacency will never change.

Now, as for the 3-some thing 2 weeks later.  I guarantee he had that set up before he left... that probalby was the stimulus to his leaving.  He saw an opportunity and he saw you as a roadblock.  Because he has no perception of a normal human being's feelings he acted on impulse and took the shortest route to acheiving his goal of hanging out with those girls.  He couldn't work his way into that 3some with you around, hence his comment about having to spend so much time with you, so he decided to remove the obstacle... you.

Now, you can continue to look in the past all you want... that will help you to understand the pain... but that's only half of it.  The most important thing you need to figure out is how to deal with and get over the pain... which is all things you must do in the future.. Rehashing and sorting out the details is not pain relief... it is only pain disclosure.

You next step is to find what makes YOU happy!!!  and making others happy is not the right answer.  if you like to read, then read.  If you like to take nude pictures of  yourself and post them here, then do just that.  if you like to meet new people for the sake of friendship, then do that and enjoy that knowing that you're buidling alliances/comrades for all situations, good and bad. I would also suggest prayer and meditation

I think a good next step would be to take your classes and enjoy that, along with reading and other activities you like.  Confide and take comfort in your family... who will ALWAYS be there for you.  Meet friends at school.  Study-buddies are a great way to meet people. and a bit of advice about meeting people at school.  If a guy from class asks you out, he's likely only attracted to you phsycially.  If a guy from class wants to study with you, or sit with you at lunch and have an actual give-and-take conversation, he's likely after attracted to you intellectually... and physically (any man would be a complete fool not to be attracted to you phsycially).

Okay.  I should probably end this cuz this post is getting long (even for me).  And the bossman is lurking around the corner and I know he knows I'm on the Internet screwing around instead of actually working. 

Look how many people are here who care about you, DY.  you're a great person.  Dont give anyone the power to make you think otherwise and certainly don't let anyone but you control your mood.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

DY,
Sorry to hear about your breakup.  As the others have said here, I think in the longrun it will be a great thing for you even if it hurts now.  You have a lot of support here from some very nice people.  We can all help you get through this. 

Hold your head up high and know that you are a beautiful girl inside and out.  In time you will feel better.  In the meantime if there is anything we can do, just drop us a line.  We are your friends here. 

Cman I'll hold the asshole down while you beat him.  When you get tired, lend me the costume and I pick up where you left off.

Personally, I think he's already inflicted the most harsh punishment upon himself - for moreso than a prison full of clowns with oversized sexual implements, or what have you.  And that's the simple fact that he both knowingly and willingly turned his back on someone like DY, who cared so much about him and gave so much of herself, in order to chase random sex.

He's now on his own by his own choice, without DY to care if he even wakes up anymore.

Sucks to be him for that reason on its own as far as I'm concearned.

-Jak

*amen*

After trying for about 10 minutes to come up with a touching, witty and / or insightful post... I failed miserably.

So, back to my style.

You are a very nice person. Scumbags do not deserve nice people like you. You owe him nothing, so never feel like you do. Starting over gives you a new shot-Be very happy with your own self and your own capabilities. Your potential is now no longer anchored by dead weight... so embrace your new freedom and be everything you want to be...and more!
And on a sidenote... I cant see why anyone wouldn't want to be around you all the time... if you have the sweet demeanour that you show on here you'd be an awesome person to be around... And you should enjoy others' company as well.

Just keep being you!

wow, that was a lot for you to go through DY.
I don't have a lot of wisdom to impart that hasn't been said, but if this douche bag spent all his time playing counter strike and had no ambition for school, a job or his life despite your encouragement, you are far better off without him.
It's unfortunate that you feel the way you do about all guys now, but it may have a silver lining. Too many women(and guys too) who break off relationships seem to grasp at the first person they see out of desperation for companionship and it often ends in heartbreak. In your case it's good that you're embracing your individuality and living for yourself. FInd out who you really are and what you really want in a mate and I'm sure down the road you will find the person who will make you happy for the rest of your life.

And Cman, your bit about dressing up as a clown beating the fuck out of him with a dildo had me laughing my ass off! That's gotta be used in a movie somewhere.

Amen Bondi

Sweetheart you always have a crew of friends and admirers here. No need to even get naked for us. You can always come here to shoot the shit with us

Don't let your bad experience with guys taint the whole batch for you. There are always bad fucking apples in a vat. You explained it yourself why he is a useless waste of space and not even worth you time or after-thought.

If I Lived closer I would have to impose my will on this useless fuck just for the simple fact he laid a hand on you at all.  Punk mother fucker.  

A beautiful woman like you deserves to be catered to and pampered .. not to have to drag some god damned lame ass lump of shit through his life.

You are way better than that goofball will ever be hon. 

God damn this dude has made  me so mad .. I would dress up as a clown and beat this fucking guy senseless with a 12 inch rubber cock cackling all the time I was whipping ass just so he would have to explain it to people ....

That a maniacal laughing clown kicked his ass with a 12 inch dildo!!!
Don't waste any more time on this guy sweetheart and god dammit go grab a bite to eat. Don't starve yourself

Hope you come back for visits hon or stay a while

In all reality I really do not know you but it breaks my heart to hear ANY woman say that there was nothing wrong with getting beat up and that THEY in fact deserved it. The sooner you realise that none of this was your fault and that you NEVER deserve to be mistreated by him or anyone else the sooner you will be on the road to recovery.

Please, please whatever you do NEVER take this guy back into your life. I have seen so many women throw endless years away on men who just do not deserve to be breathing the same air as them. All he means is that he wants to go out and fuck other women for a while before coming back to you. Please don't allow this to happen to yourself.

I am sure in years to come this period in your life will be a defining moment that will steer the remainder of your journey so just ensure that you take everything you can from it and go for the nice guy in future...

Other than that, you are more than welcome

WOW this guy really fucked with your perception of the male sex.

Without sounding too harsh the guy never seemed to have anything going for him except you. You started out with him when he was a loser and he never changed. The fact that he physically assaulted you in not only unforgiveable but criminal and totally cowardly.

The only mistake you made was alienaitng yourself from your friends to be solely with this creep and they have no turned their back on you. I am sure if you apologised for the past, and they were any sort of friend they would slowly start to build a level of trust and love for you again.

Lastly, while he may be partying all the time and have girls throw themselves at him, this will not last. Im guessing he is in his 20s or some shit but who is he going to be come 40, or 50? If he is still alive he'll most likely be in jail getting his asshole ripped apart every night or he will be living a very lonely existence. You on the other hand, with your sincerity, personality and beauty (both within and on the outside) will be wherever you want to be in life.

Soldier on sweetheart

Wishing ill will doesn't help you.

Forget him and look toward the positives in life.

You are already finding them

(Maybe just wish his dick falls off)

My dear girl,

Men maybe jerks, But this is probably for the best.

I can't see that guy going anywhere positive.

So mend your wounds quickly and remember what it is you have inside of you - and that is a big heart.

People, and friends will flock to you

I know I've never posted in here before, but I can't not say something about this...

While, yes, it's true that a lot of men are complete arseholes, I don't think you'd find a guy here (in this thread - I'm sure there's plenty of arseholes on this site elsewhere) who wouldn't give up his left testicle in a rather painful way if it meant he could know you were feeling alright.  By extension, they'd probably give up the right as well in an equally non-surgical manner if it meant they could also see you smile.

Words like your last strike me like a hot iron in the back, and it makes me feel sick to think someone could so willingly do something like this to one so undeserving.  I may not know you, and I may not have spoken to you before, but someone with words like yours is clearly worth far more than what's happened.  And even without those words there's still the great many people who've come together, here, to show you their support that tells me you deserve so much better.

I hope you find your appetite soon.  Not for the images, of course (your admirers wouldn't care about a few missing pounds, I can assure you), but for your own health.  I also hope that you can get yourself through this.  I've been to the bottom before myself - twice - and can still only imagine what it is you're going through.

We're all here for you if you need or want us; even many of those who haven't even said so, yet.

-Jak.

As time passes on the reason for me leaving RMM is getting worse and worse. People are fake, deceitful and manipulative.

Again, the last thing I can think about is getting naked in front of a group of strangers.

I just checked this forum at random, out of curiousity.

I have sworn men off forever, and if you knew why, you wouldnt blame me. Besides...due to lack of hunger I have lost some pounds...in all the wrong places, if you catch my drift.

awww shit ......
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tooo bad a very fine looking lady to grace the pages of rmm